True Womanhood

visitationI used to think the Catholic Church was misogynistic, but I was looking at it with the eyes of the world rather than the eyes of faith.  I used to have all sorts of silly and erroneous ideas about the Church.  Since my conversion I feel like I’ve taken the red pill in The Matrix.  The veil has been lifted, and I can see much more clearly.

The Church doesn’t teach men that women are sex objects, or vice versa.  It doesn’t teach that sex is primarily for pleasure, or that sex outside marriage is a good idea.  It doesn’t teach women that it’s okay to kill their own babies in their wombs.  No, it’s the secular world that teaches us to objectify women, to regard babies as a disposable inconvenience, and to pursue pleasure above all else.

True womanhood, and true manhood, is about being obedient to the will of God.  Marriage between a man and a woman is an earthly reflection of the union of Christ with the Church.  Families are an earthly reflection of the perfect love and relationship between the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.  Families break down when they stop obeying God’s will, or stop relying on God’s help.

assumptionI read a beautiful article recently by Father Richard Heilman.  He describes how woman is the pinnacle of God’s creation. The article is a lovely tribute to true womanhood and the tradition of veiling.

It’s true that women can’t be priests (and that’s primarily where the misogynistic reputation comes from) but they can dedicate their lives to God in equally valuable ways.  Men and women are not the same or interchangeable, despite what the secular world is trying to get us to believe.  God has given us different natures and roles.  We serve God best by fully accepting our role in His grand plan.

And, if you think that women should be allowed to be priests maybe you don’t understand what a priest is.  I’m only a newbie Catholic but, as I understand it, a priest is chosen by God to stand “in persona Christi”.  A priest offers the Mass and the Sacraments in Christ’s stead.  It seems logical that God chooses men for this role because Christ was incarnated as a man; the new Adam (with Mary, through her fiat, as the new Eve).  It is through ignorance or arrogance that we think that we could over-ride God’s will, and force Him to make a woman a priest.

From the Catholic Catechism (my emphases are shown in bold):

…Today the word “ordination” is reserved for the sacramental act which integrates a man into the order of bishops, presbyters, or deacons, and goes beyond a simple election, designation, delegation, or institution by the community, for it confers a gift of the Holy Spirit that permits the exercise of a “sacred power” (sacra potestas) which can come only from Christ himself through his Church. Ordination is also called consecratio, for it is a setting apart and an investiture by Christ himself for his Church. The laying on of hands by the bishop, with the consecratory prayer, constitutes the visible sign of this ordination…  The Lord Jesus chose men to form the college of the twelve apostles, and the apostles did the same when they chose collaborators to succeed them in their ministry… The Church recognizes herself to be bound by this choice made by the Lord himself. For this reason the ordination of women is not possible…  No one has a right to receive the sacrament of Holy Orders. Indeed no one claims this office for himself; he is called to it by God… Like every grace this sacrament can be received only as an unmerited gift.

The video below offers another way to look at this issue:

coronationIf you’re jealous of the rank and prestige that men can attain in the Church perhaps you should think about the dreadful risk that bishops and cardinals take.  These are only mortal men but they are expected to retain (and develop) their humility and other virtues while being offered the privileges of their rank.  Powerful positions offer great temptations that can jeopardise the fate of their eternal souls.  Not only that, these positions mean that they can also jeopardise the fate of many other souls.  The deepest parts of hell are reserved for shepherds who betray their flock and do not repent.

Sassoferrato - Jungfrun i bönYou cannot be a Christian and not recognise the privilege that it is to be a woman, because the most perfect of all creatures, the only creature born without original sin, is a woman and therefore once again you understand the extraordinary privilege of being one and having this image of the Holy Virgin, who was both Virgin and Mother and the two go beautifully together.

– Dr. Alice Von Hildebrand (via Fr. Heilman’s article)

Note: The photos of stained glass windows were taken last year in my local church.


Posted on January 31, 2017, in Christianity and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. absolutely truth!!!
    The key phrase—true womanhood, true manhood is about being obedient to God—-that sums it all up in a nutshell—obedience being key!!!
    Excellent post Sarah!!!!

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  2. Sarah I applaud your bravery in writing what comes from so vulnerable a place for us all. As you know my beliefs, you know I also disagree with pretty much everything you said <3. I am so glad you wrote it because it helped me face that false voice of the ego that so nags at my faith. My first inclination was to argue my points (with love and compassion of course). then I thought of one my favorite spiritual statements, "Do you prefer that you be right or happy?" (ACIM). In this case, I was definitely going for right or in other words being judgey. If I had written what I first intended to write, I really would have been arguing against my core beliefs: My soul is in a state of eternal Grace, so it does not matter if a male or female heads the church. It matters that I know I have never been nor can ever be separate from God. I believe Jesus incarnated as a Jewish male because 2000 years ago that was the best way to get the message out. I believe Jesus raised the dead, healed the sick,and reincarnated to show us that no matter what form the human body appears to take, no matter how sick, or even if the body appears to have died — God wants us to stop believing in the importance of a physical body (male/female) and that we have always been and always will be one with God. Thank you for being my spiritual teacher today. Much Love. <3<3<3

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    • Yes, I know, Colleen. As you might have guessed, it was one of your posts on the LOA that prompted me to speak up. I’m glad that you took the time to read this but sorry that it didn’t change your mind. ❤


      • I’ve read both of your comments and it makes me smile . I don’t think it was any “accident” you missed the rest of my comment the first time around. I have wondered for some time the purpose of all the synchronistic moments that brought us together and we mostly agreed on our spiritual beliefs and then in what seemed to me a 180 we diverged. If one of us had changed our minds (and it doesn’t seem that is going to happen any time soon :D) it might have made our friendship easier but it would have made barely a ripple in the suffering of the world. Instead, we are two women from different countries, cultures and religious beliefs — who chose to show each other compassion and love even though our religious beliefs seem to contradict each other. What does that teach the rest of the world? Once two people have proven you can disagree on your core religious beliefs and still show compassion and can honor the other, there can never be another person who can say — it can’t be done. Because today it has been done. Peace and Love and Compassion and all that good stuff. I think you’ve taught more than me today. ❤

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      • Beautiful observations, Colleen. Yes, it’s been an interesting process and I’m sure we haven’t finished learning from each other. 🙂 My peace and love to you always. ❤


      • Thanks. I hope you get lots of rainbows and roses today. 😀

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    • Sorry, I only saw the first two sentences of your comment in my reader so that is what my first reply is in response to. I’m glad that you feel that I have taught you something. Much love to you also. 🙂


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